Originally Posted by Cairon
To each his own, but abuse defined legally, is leaving long lasting marks, cuts, welts, large bruises... While I wouldn't use an implement, I don't need to use my hand either (which can just as easily leave welts). However, I'm not going to get hysterical about others practices either, as long as it's not abuse.
Knowing the punishment ahead of time, and being clear ahead of time keeps knee jerk reactions and spanking out of anger out of the equation. Thus putting thought into it ahead of time keeps things from being arbitrary, knee jerk and done out of anger.Originally Posted by Cairon
Wow, take a 1 hour TV show, subtract 20 minutes of commercials, and break it in half for 2 families and you gleaned all of this insight from about 20 minutes of content clearly edited for entertainment. That's drama bordering on hysterics.Originally Posted by Cairon
I won't argue that this happens, BUT also the opposite happens. Kids grow up with boundaries, learn self discipline and control at an early age and live normal happy lives, without the need to do those things.Originally Posted by Cairon
I can envision two different strict families. One is just strict, while the other is strict, yet done in love and with love. The latter would be less likely to follow your hypothetical.
Prove it! So far not one scientific study agrees with your point. All studies, and there arn't a whole lot, show that the average home schooled child is socialized just fine, and has the benefit of being better socialized with adults.Originally Posted by Cairon