I guess I'm in the minority, but I didn't think that the money was spent that wisely at the Abbott house. The whole problem with that family is that the father has an extreme amount of control over the family. He exerts it out of fear that they will leave him & he will be alone. He is a sad person, and needs about 50K worth of therapy. I wouldn't spend it all on him, though.
Really, those boys need to experience their own lives & make their own decisions. I was amazed that she didn't set any money aside for the kids to go to school or travel. She seemed to really grasp the dilemna facing these boys, but she didn't give them the tools to escape the situation.