Far as I'm concerned, NO one of ANY race is "allowed" to use it. And that goes not only for the n-word as applied to or by African Americans, but also for the s-word, as applied to or by Hispanic Americans, the w-word as applied to or by Italian Americans, and so on.
ALL of that type of verbiage is reprehensible to me, and I happen not to care one iota WHAT the color of the person's skin is that a derogatory or extremely questionable racial term happens to come from.
As for what the word "colored" means to people --- or more specifically, for THIS particular case --- quite a few, or a LOT of black people . . .
If you've never looked out at the world from the face in which I have for well over half a century --- in Atlanta, Georgia, where racism STILL exists in various and sundry ways and locations in a supposedly "new" millennium and century --- then, no, I wouldn't EXPECT you to understand what the word "colored" means to myself or others who HAVE lived their lives looking out of our faces and skins in the world in which we have, and do.
And had/have to pay various nasty prices for goods that we didn't even lay our money down to buy, as it were.
Therefore, it's no surprise at ALL to me that you would actually pose the question " . . . who cares?" or say " . . . it doesn't mean much." in regards to the use of certain offensive words and terms, and how they happen to negatively affect myself and/or others, perhaps.
Far as not finding the PERSON who actually spoke/said the words offensive . . .
If I am allowed to do so, I will TRY like the devil to "Hate the sin, NOT the sinner."
Even though it's still a work in progress for me, I'd like to believe that I am mostly LONG past the day when I will tear someone a new one straight out of the gate for an offense. Racial, or otherwise. True, I USED to do that, no questions asked. However, I have learned and know better, therefore I choose to DO better. If I REALLY don't care for a statement, I will do my absolute best to simply make my displeasure or opposing viewpoint known, and keep it moving.
Bite my tongue (or in this case, keyboard)? No. But, I WILL try to give whoever the benefit of the doubt in that I'd like to believe they weren't aware a statement or phrase caused offense, then let them KNOW it in a reasonable manner.
So, just as you indicated that Sterlings and people like him do what they do out of ignorance (and hypocrisy), I'm willing to float a boat for ignorance with SOME others --- to a POINT --- on this hot-button issue, as well.
And, as I previously stated, I also have NO problem being willing to step up and present my opposing viewpoint on the (un)intended ignorance, either.
It's all good.
We've all got our opinions and viewpoints.
Donald Sterling Is Battling Cancer, Sources Say - ABC News
I wouldn't be in his shoes for his boots, right about now.
And no, before any implications are attempted to be made that I am rejoicing about his health situation by posting that story link, no, I'm NOT.
And no, I STILL wouldn't be in his shoes for his boots, right about now.
And the mistress?
Right now, 'bout the best I can say about HER is that she's a REAL piece of work.