Let me preface this:
--I don't know Emily
--I don't know the Hendricks
--I don't know Brad
--Emily looks like a wonderful mother from her interactions with Ricki on screen
--Ricki looks like a well-adjusted, happy child, due in no small part to the love and attention given her by the Hendricks and Emily
--Emily and Ricky look like a young couple in crazy love with each other in all the photographs readily available online
--Emily suffered a tremendous loss. One that I think EVERYONE understands and has compassion for. I certainly do.
All that being said, my heart is always going to be with the people who have no power over their story being told. In this case, that is the Hendricks and Ricki. I can imagine what Emily suffered, having suffered something similar. I can't imagine what the Hendricks suffered. To lose their only son, a brother, nieces, business partners, friends. It's incomprehensible. Do I think they want Emily to find someone new and have a father for Ricki? Absolutely. But it is soul sucking for me to think about Emily "winning" a TV show based at least partially on a story that in my mind was worse for the Hendricks than it was for Emily. And now on Monday they are going to have to watch her accept an engagement to be married to someone they've never met in a situation where the F1 has NEVER made it to the alter with the one they originally chose? I got torn apart for saying that Emily should have left the first night when she found out that it was a non-negotiable for Brad to leave Austin because the happiness of the Hendricks should have been at least a partial consideration to her. But that's my opinion. It doesn't make her a bad person to go on the show. It certainly doesn't make her a bad mother. But, I agree with northernviewer that it was a selfish decision.
All that being said, the story has been written. Nothing I can say will change it. But some wishful thinking for Brad, if I may? I think a new collection of bars would be AWESOME in Charlotte, NC. How 'bout on the media rounds next week, you say that you're moving there? Pretty please with a cherry on top? And beautiful, beautiful Emily? Please smile like you did with Ricky. And if you can't, find someone who makes you feel that way. You deserve it.