Big: You know, Manhattan has a lot of beautiful women.
Carrie: What an amazing observation!
Big: But the thing is, after awhile, you just wanna be with the one who makes you laugh.
~ Sex and the City
Poor Emily, the girl just can't win!
While the show aired, she was accused of being too saintly and too plastic. Now, she's too controlling and emotional. So which is it?
I've got one word for what I saw during the ATFR last night - real.
I know most don't want to but let's take a look at things from Emily's POV. She just spent the last 2 months watching the man she fell in love with stick his tongue down the majority of the final 12's throats. He wined and dined them and said pretty nothings similar to what he said to her.
Even the most confident, secure woman would begin to crumble after that! And let's be honest - Brad definitely ties or beats Blob for the number of girls kissed.
What we heard from Brad & Emily last night was real. Molly admitted to tough times watching her season, as did Ryan and Roberto. Are we going to call them controlling and insecure because they felt that way too?? Unfortunately, it's the nature of the beast. The show isn't set up for happy couples - it's set up for drama and ratings. If they get a happy couple, that's a bonus. If they don't, it doesn't matter b/c they're on to the next season.
Lots of real life couples find they need to take a break - before and while married - and the decision to reunite with their significant other means they WANT to be together. It's a conscious choice. So the fact that Emily still wants to be with Brad bodes well. Hopefully, they can work out their communication issues but that's part of being in a relationship - you learn to give and take and compromise.
I think now that Emily doesn't have to share him anymore, we'll see things work out. If that was the ONLY issue they had then it should be water under the bridge now and they should consider themselves lucky. It was a beautiful love story and I'll be interested to see how it works out in the future.
"We must overcome the notion that we must be regular...it robs you of the chance to be extraordinary and leads you to the mediocre." - Uta Hagen
“I don’t want my pain erased! As wretched as it is, I need my pain… It makes me who I am. It makes me Grumpy.” - Grumpy, Once Upon a Time
I am absolutely taking BFCs word that they are stronger than ever. I don't know about you all but I can certainly say that any rough periods my man and I went through made us realize how dedicated we were to our relationship. If Emily is insecure in theirs, this rough period will force them to sink or swim, and if they swim she will gain confidence in their relationship and they will be all the stronger for it.
It seems that everybody complaining about Emily, commenting on what she saw and felt should remember we saw the Chantal edit the first 2/3rds of the season. I can say the Brantal fans were jumping up and down at the love story they all saw. To bad that was not real. Emily must have been more than a little upset, I would be if I saw that every week. We didn't really see the Brad and Emily love story until the very end.After the Lauren story had already hit the stands. Her head was spinning.
I'm glad the season is over. If the only press they do is People (and Ellen ) I'm ok with it..
the ATFR show was kind of painful to watch, the bremily part. but that's the reality of relationships, there'll be bigger bumps to hurdle in the future for sure. i agree with trista, moving together may be the right move for them, for their particular case at least. straight from the horse's mouth right? that what they have is volatile. but then, how will you be able to even start a marriage with someone unless you get to experience how brad will be with your child on a daily basis first and foremost. basically it's really a relationship of brad with emily and ricki. a package deal indeed, "no doubt about it".
on brad and emily, i'm not taking away the fact that maybe love is there. but i don't think it's as big as what brad is selling to us. but maybe i'm wrong, who knows. but in my opinion, brad will strive to make this relationship work, will fight tooth and nail to drive it home for a combination of reasons (not presuming anything, just opinions):
- he thinks he's in love with emily. maybe he really is. or maybe he's in love with the idea of emily and this perfect picture in his head of his ideal. nothing wrong with that of course. i hope for both their sakes, most esp brad's that it's a need because he loves emily and not he loves emily coz he needs her;
- no more "laurel kagay" to fall back on. i'm not into tabloid rumors but i believe there's some underlying truths in some, esp after watching brad and emily last night, it seemed like the remake of the "laurel-brad" story, only this time, emily is in the lead role;
- and in spite of whatever we are tryng to be led on to believe, this bachelor stint for brad was also motivated by the need to redeem or salvage whatever was left of his tattered reputation from before (although i never saw his season, i'm all for nothing wrong in not choosing someone if you didn't see yourself making the commitment); and brad would not risk the ire of the public if this relationship doesn't work out this time around; lastly
- (the impression to me is) he seemed so vent on starting a family of his own that it's like a ticking time bomb or something in his head.
if this love is true, then i don't think there's a need for any close friend of emily's or brad's or any bach rep to defend and sell the relationship (too much). if it's there, it's there. no need to shove it down. maybe whatever brad and emily share may not be apparent to some, but if it's a very true commitment, it will be obvious in time. selling or pushing it too much to the public to me is aggravating for the simple fact that there is a child involve. i hope brad and emily wash their dirty linens privately next time around. and refrain from throwing each other under the bus. they can even pretend everything's ok when in public if they have to. again, it's just my opinion coz it's not just brad-emily, but brad-emily/ricki.
i hope everything works out for the best!
Last edited by secri; 03-15-2011 at 12:01 PM.
Not that I would ever do the show, or let alone let anyone I cared about be on it.....there is a process that they should know about going into it. We can't judge anything they feel since we haven't walked in their shoes. Its very easy for all of us to be "Monday Morning Quarterbacls". Just my 2C.