SAVE THE WHALES..THE OCEANS DIE..WE DIE!!!
"If you're going to walk on thin ice, you might as well dance." ~ anonymous
I don't think F1 ever gets the shark date. I could be wrong..... And I've also heard the F1 music with Emily.....but again, MF might be changing up the edit. I wonder why they let us see Brad telling Emily he was falling for her, though? Hmmmmmm.....
I rewatched Brad and Chantal's date and I have to say I love the way they are together. I like Brad a LOT better when he's with her and I love that Chantal keeps him on his toes.
I've always felt Brad and Em were too stilted, but want to rewatch carefully to see if I can see what many others are seeing.
As far as stringing someone along - unfortunately it is the name of the game. I wish the lead would be more careful about what they say.
The catch with Chantal is that he sent Shawntell home because he wasn't feeling the way someone should when she said ILY. Why doesn't this apply to Chantal? Maybe he was going to use the same reason, but cut it earlier with Ash. I'd feel the same way if Emily were to be cut after he said he was falling in love.
Still a bit under the weather so not posting much but, I wanted to address this bolded statement briefly because I keep seeing people saying it. I see people keep saying Chantal wore her heart on her sleeve, told him she loved him, and asked him to send her home if she wasn't the one(there have been many variations of this send me home" if I'm not the one", "if you don't feel the same way", "if you don't feel anything for me", on and on. Frankly, first if Chantal had dropped the direct ultimatum of send me home if I'm not the one or F1 there is no way on this green earth that she can think that he would be able to do that within the constraints of this show whether he felt anything for her or not. Especially, at the time of filming that she made her statements. I don't care what kind of connection she felt she had with Brad, what would make her think she is any better than any of the other girls to receive that particular reassurance. Every other girl was risking being hurt just as much as she was and wanted reassurance. What makes her any better than say, Shawntell, who also told Brad she was falling in love with him and loved him? All the girls feel something on some level whether they voice it or are smart and emotionally reserved enough to keep it to themselves. No on wants to be hurt but, it's the nature of the beast that is this show. Chantal was trying to be emotionally manipulative.
Next, to my recollection what Chantal actual said at the pool after Nascar date was 'send me home if you don't feel for me'. The second time was on the SI date and was 'if you can't choose me out of 3 girls send me home'. I'm paraphrasing on both I don't have time to relook right now. Brad could have kept her on both counts and not be leading her on. He does feel something for her and obviously felt more for her than the girls he sent home, particularly in the early stages after that statement. The second one on the SI date was more about Ashley getting the rose. Chantal was thinking she should be getting the rose on that date if she was F1. Brad was telling her that we don't think the same. In his mind he gave Ashey the rose at that point because of how she took on the photoshoot and added bonus it gave her some reassurance. However, frankly he probably wanted to not give it to either of the 3 women with how they were acting on that date. The reasons the leads give date roses are not always built on who they feel the most for a'la Britt getting date rose over Ashley that time.
Brad got the ok from his therapist that this is his journey to find love and that he needs to forget loyalties to the women and fully explore his relationships with all the women , open his emotions to all, and feel which feelings for which woman floats to the top as the strongest. And that's what Brad is doing. That's what pretty much all leads, male & female, do and have to do if they are going to give this concept of dating multiple people at the same time the ability to work. And the bachelor/ettes that join the show sign of for it. All leads have said that you can develop feelings for multiple people, including those who say they fell for their F1 early on or at 1st sight. They still develop feelings for the other individuals, as is natural when they must continue to date, get close, and create memories with all of them. Plus, there have been many huge frontrunners who started that way and with time fell to the wayside as the lead got to know them better. Look at Ashley. It happens the same IRL dating when you meet the guy and feel so much promise on dating him at first and then that dwindles months later. It's just sped up quicktime in the Bachelor/ette bubble. It's not just about feelings, especially when it comes to marriage, it's about can you live with this person for a lifetime and your lives mesh together. The difference between a long-term girlfriend and wife. The F3 often comes down to that, the fling, the girlfriend, and the wife. It takes time to figure out which is which in terms of how you feel and how your lifetime goals match. Brad didn't take Chantal to the F3/2 because he felt nothing for her. He felt for her but, if Emily is F1, he felt the most for Emily. Even though he fell early it took time for him to see that those feelings would hold true, match for a combined life, and that other feelings for Chantal & other girls wouldn't grow an doverride those feelings. That's not evevn factoring in what he was required to do by the show. IMO
Those are my 2cents for the night, lol. Bit longer than I intended
From the beginning of the show didn't the previews asked Will She Choose or accept him at the FRC. Or to that effect.
Last edited by ButterflyFaery; 03-01-2011 at 04:05 AM.
SAVE THE WHALES..THE OCEANS DIE..WE DIE!!!