The thing about growing up is that you are never really done with it. Seriously, if you stop growing and developing as a person (emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually) your life, itself, makes you unhappy. You are inclined to the see the negative in everything, and your fears begin to be the driving force in your life. Nothing seems realy satisfying or fulfilling, and eventually nothing gives you a sense of purpose. You become overwhelmed and insular and, therefore, completely self-involved.
I really do not think Bethenny is there. Neither is Jason. I do think that they should be in counseling together, though.