Well said. i just think that it is a speed bump on the road they are traveling as a couple.Now, true Bethenney's situation is not exactly the same, but I see a lot of similarities. I see someone who didn't want to have a big birthday party. But to her husband and her husband's family, it was a big deal to celebrate and they wanted a big party. So she tried - she tried to plan the big party because they wanted to do that for her and she wanted to allow them to. But at the end of the day, all the trying in the world can't make you feel something you don't - or can't stop you from feeling something you do. Just like my husband later acknowledged with me, I'm sure Jason will be fine with Bethenney's reaction. He knows her and he knows how she feels. She tried, but at the end of the day, it was too much for her. In the future, Jason will come to see what you have all been saying - it is not the huge gestures that are important to her, it is the small ones. I put this up to being the first big birthday Jason celebrated with her - so he went with what he would have wanted/done, not necessarily understanding it isn't what Bethenney wants. My guess is that it won't happen again. Big parties for Jason, small intimate affairs for Bethenney and they will be just fine. Marriage is a learning process - and you continue to learn about the other person until the day you die!