Well personally I don't see her "whining" about it and playing the "victim". I think she's allowed to talk about her childhood and her experience in it. She's allowed to say it effected her, made some things, like trusting people, more difficult for her, without being called a whiner and a victim. She doesn't say "woah is me I can't overcome this it's all my parent's fault" She says "I have a wonderful life, but I have some issues I need some help to deal with because of a difficult childhood."
I had someone once tell me that I didn't have a bad childhood because I didn't have the exact same problems they did. Their family had to worry about paying the rent. My family was not well off, but was stable financially, therefore my childhood wasn't bad. Somehow they felt like they had to compete for "worst childhood" because if theirs wasn't the worst then they had no excuse for their behavior maybe? She couldn't accept that others had crappy, though different, experiences.
I wouldn't ever presume to say what someone else's experience was and judge whether they had a right to have been effected by it, especially only knowing maybe 5% of the details. Just because I had a different experience doesn't mean mine was a good childhood.