PhoneGrrrl, Aviva's story last night had the same impact (or lack of impact) on me. I thought that we had heard it so often already that I didn't really connect with it. It did however give me some insight as to how her parents may have raised her, which would go a long way in explaining why she is like she is. I've never gone thorugh anything that traumatizing with my kids. But I have been in the emergency room with a child who was in terrible pain and getting stitches. I hated seeing my baby like that, and wanted to do something to make the pain go away. But I also knew that the doctor and nurse who were taking care of him knew how to fix it better than I could. As much as I hated it, I moved out of their way and let them do their thing. So when she said that George told her to keep on screaming, it showed me that George is arrogant enough to think that he knows better than the emergency workers. It also showed me that George would indulge Aviva's short term needs to make her happy, instead of thinking about what was going to be better for her in the long run. That was certainly an extreme event, and MAYBE George did not indulge her like that all the time. But based on the way she acts, I'm going to guess that he did. I guess that he indulged everything she ever wanted, which is why now, she does not know how to function if people don't do things her way.