Something occured to me when the whole cheating on Jeff thing was rehashed last night. Gretchen says she never cheated on Jeff, and also acknowledges SOME physical interaction with men other than Jeff. Is it possible that she and Jeff had an understanding, he knew she was having fun with other guys, and therefore was not cheating? I could understand why and how it could happen. Jeff and Gretchen had a connection and cared about each other quite a bit - but he also knew he was dying, and was physically limited by how much he could do for Gretchen. I could see him telling her that it was okay for her to go out and have fun with other people, knowing she'd be back to take care of him. There are people out there who have open relationships, and if both parties are okay with it, I don't think there's a major problem with it. I also could understand why Gretchen would want to honor Jeff's memory by not telling the world that they had such an arrangement. Then, it would be truthful that Gretchen did not cheat on Jeff, would also be truthful that she kissed other men while Jeff was dying, and would explain why Gretchen is never going to budge on the issue.