I grew up in the 50's and 60's in Louisiana as one of 11 eleven kids. We were not permitted to be sassy with adults, and by that I mean we were not permitted to ridicule them or contradict them. But, by God, we were encouraged to defy them under certain circumstances - like if they decided to swat our behinds, send us to bed without supper, get in our personal space (like our underpants), or insist that we get in a car with them (even if we knew them well).
They were not permitted to scold us unless we were in their care (as in babysitting us). Not even our grandparents were permitted to do this. And our parents never scolded us in front of anyone. We were taken aside and spoken to. Because they respected us, too, and humiliation wasn't part of discipline.