I guess that the only way to be assured of getting exactly what you want is to do it yourself. Maybe it's different when you're an older mother, or this is not your first time around in a while. If that's the case, I don't think that throwing your own shower is, necessarily, a bad thing. Expecting your friends to foot that big bill is unreasonable. But, since Bravo probably footed it.............well, there you go!
And, I can see Phaedra writing a check to get the necessary documents and, then just managing/running the business....and I can see the industry allowing that to take place..... even in New York.....after all, money talks.