There's a difference between spanking and beating. I *never* got beaten as a child. But I got a swat once or twice. I wasn't traumatized, I didn't grow up resentful, angry, psychologically damaged or any other terrible thing. I have a wonderful close relationship with my parents. Caroline saying that if Ashley had been her daughter, she'd still be holding ice to her lip didn't sound unfamiliar to me, and it didn't sound terrible.
I like Kathy's family a lot. They're odd but so sweet. They love each other very much and that's obvious, and the kids seem well-mannered and nice. I like them, and I'd like to hang out with them out of any of the other families.