This won't be popular, but I loved it when Abby ripped the Moms a "new one" and let them know who was boss and who was running the show!!! It's amazing how those kids seem to love her and be devoted to her. They absolutely live for her approval. Kids have a way of doing that kind of stuff to you.....you think you are 'protecting' your children, but they have totally different ideas of what they want and when they've had enough.
Our "little darlings" are soooo much more resilient than we think they are. WE are the ones with little resilience. It seems to be more about a struggle for control for the Moms.
I think Abby's issue is more about the WAY she presents things. That could use some tinkering with.