1. yes, I've known some from almost birth to mature age so I can attest to it but sometimes a generalization is used and understood.
2. That's what's great about communication: we can all interpret things differently and they can all be correct.
3. Apparently, you took my wording too literally. As I said, I never used corporal punishment on my children so I thought it would be understood that physical ways are not the only solution. For my kids, it worked. (My son would have been 40 this year ... died 5 yrs ago....and my daughter is 36.)
But as we all know, people say/do things with loved ones far more harshly and cruelly than with perfect strangers...for a lot of reasons that I won't go into.
Probably a very good idea to not deal harshly with people who try your patience since it can happen so often.