Kody is an advertising salesman. My brother has actually worked with him before. And yes he does very well for himself. I doubt they take any kind of government aid. And probably wouldn't have gone on TV if they did. Also I didn't mean to offend or bring up the topic of homosexuality being a choice or not. All I meant to say was in response to Mindy's comment that both lifestyles are considered different than just a man and woman being married. I was merely trying to point out that if we can give one group of people our acceptance why not another as well? This doesn't seem that far out there but because it is driven by religion I think people automatically attach a stigma to it which is a double standard in my opinion and slightly unfair to these people. It seems perfectly okay to have affairs and be swingers and be serial monogamists (people who get married over and over) but this is sooo wrong and worse then that why? At least these people are trying to teach their kids values, have stayed together for many years through what must have been very hard circumstances sometimes. I think Meri could leave if she wanted but has stated that she wouldn't do that to her daughter because this is her daughters family. I find that admirable and appropriate to put your childs needs and happiness before your own. I think too often in society now days all people think about is themselves and if they are happy 100% of the time and satisfied and yada yada. Selfishness has very damaging consequences on any marriage...plural, gay or otherwise and I think a marriage can only last when we put our spouse's and our families needs before our own. And they should do the same for us. Don't get me wrong I think there are lots of sad things about this show and I feel for the other wives as well. They probably should have just stayed the three of them. They were obviously comfortable with that.