I guess we will just have to disagree(I gotta come up with something better than that)
It sounds to me like you have had problems in your own life with maybe not always following what was expected or you did follow it and now have alot of resentment for doing so. No I am not trying to psychoanalyze you at all....just trying to follow what you have posted. I still think and I know you and others have differing opinions that Michelle and JimBob are not that unbending. They may not like the choices but I still feel they would support them. I don't mean if one of the kids went off drinking and sleeping around and such but just if they decided not to have so many kids...live a more mainstream life...that sort of thing. Maybe not take as strict a path as they have. As I said all of this is just my take on it.