her life story is a perfect illustration about never really knowing what another person has gone through-we all judge people but we don't really know them, even people in our own lives-they carry around secrets and sorrows but we don't know that. We judge them without knowing them. I'm not saying to excuse bad behavior, but you can at least understand it. Not only did she lose her fiancée in the 9/11 attacks but she was on the phone with him as the attack happened. Add in her father overdosing...Originally Posted by ibot2much;4156549;
in order to survive terrible life experiences people will do anything, in some cases, to survive-including destroying themselves and making terrible personal choices that can be morally bankrupt. I think a lot of people who have gone through very bad things believe they are bad and so engage in behavior that is self fulfilling. Whether that's drug addiction, sleeping with married men, drinking. I think a person can be so miserable, so despondent that they cannot see themselves as `good.' Especially if they have been subjected to repeated abuse-particularly verbal that makes them believe they are a piece of garbage.