Maybe they've never seen the show before. There are several TV shows on now that I haven't even heard of.
I HAD NO IDEA THAT THIS WAS AN INTERVENTION, I HAD NEVER WATCHED THE SHOW. I APPLIED FOR THIS MYSELF, THERE WAS AN AD IN THE PAPER STATING THAT A NEW REALITY SHOW/DOCUMENTARY WAS LOOKING FOR PEOPLE WITH AN ADDICTION, I KNOW I HAD A SHOPPING ADDICTION SO I WROTE TO THEM, THEY CALLED AND SENT A CAMERA TEAM TO FILM A TEST FILM, THEY LIKED MY STORY, SO THEN WITHIN A WEEK THEY BEGAN FILMING, WHEN I ASKED THEM WHAT SHOW, THEY SAID A REALITY SHOW, SO I WENT WITH IT. MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNEW BUT I DIDNT. I DID THIS SHOW BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WOULD HELP OTHERS WITH THE SAME ADDICTION AND ALSO I WOULD BENEFIT FROM IT BY TALKING ABOUT MY PROBLEM, A KIND OF THERAPY. SO WHEN I WALKED IN THAT ROOM FOR THE INTERVENTION I WAS SHELL SHOCKED TO SAY THE LEAST!! AND FOR THE RECORD I DID NOT LEAVE THE CENTER AMA I SIGNED UP FOR 31 DAYS WHICH I COMPLETED, HOWEVER MY THERAPIST WANTED ME TO STAY 2 MORE WEEKS, AS I WAS THERE FIRST SHOPPING ADDICTION PERSON AND IT WOULD HAVE BEHOOVED THEM FOR ME TO STAY 2 MORE WEEKS SO THEY COULD STUDY MY TREATMENT PLAN. I KNEW IN MY HEART I WAS READY AFTER 31 DAYS, AS THE TREATMENT PLAN CONSISTED OF ABOUT 12 HOURS OF THERAPY A DAYS AS WELL AS EMDR TREATMENT WHICH IS EYEMOVEMENT DESENSATION THERAPY, WHICH PROCESESS BAD EXPERIENCES INTO THE CORRECT SIDE OF THE BRAIN, FABULOUS!!! AS FOR MY FRIEND KARIN, NOT SPEAKING WITH ME BECAUSE SHE DOESNT BELIEVE THAT I HAVE RECOVERED, THAT IS A TOTAL FALSEHOOD, SHE IS NOT SPEAKING TO ME OVER A PERSONAL MATTER, I AM STILL SHOCKED THAT SHE LIED!! HOWEVER ON THE FOLLOW UP SHOW THIS WILL BE CLEARED UP, AS WELL AS THE FACT THAT I SEE 2 THERAPISTS A WEEK STILL AND I HAVE NOT USED A CREDIT CARD SINCE SEPTEMBER 30, 2005, AND AM TAKING CARE OF MY LEGAL ISSUES AS WELL. I UNDERSTAND THAT 31 DAYS IN THERAPY DOES NOT CURE YOU! IT IS A DAILY THING YOU WORK ON, WHICH I AM. HOWEVER I AM SO GREATFUL AND THANKFUL THAT I DID THIS SHOW AND WENT INTO THERAPY IT HELPED ME MORE THAN I COULD EVER SAY.
THANKS ALL OF YOU FOR READING THIS LOOOOOOONG COMMENT
Thanks for responding Heidi. Has the therapy helped with the deeper issues of why you are a shopping addict to begin with? It seemed like the intervention lady was hitting on that point a lot- like your shopping was one thing in your life YOU can control, or rather, have a say in, whereas the incident when you were 16 left you feeling like you had no control. (which you didn't).
Your mother had me crying- loved her to death.
Can you tell us how your legal issues are coming along? Do you think you will end up in prison?
Do you work?
And...you are beautiful the way you are- stop the plastic surgery insanity!!
Do you know when they will be doing the follow up?
It's never as clear cut as the addicted person being totally at fault or totally a victim.
People become addicted because they're hurting or missing something they feel they need in order to live. Sometimes this is because someone else has been hurtful or negligent towards them, instigating the pain. Sometimes it's because the addict has unrealistic expectations over what life should feel like.
Ultimately, the addict takes the "easy" way out -- sometimes even when they know other options exist, other times simply because they don't know what else to do to fix the pain. Every addict, while you can describe them similarly in terms of general behavior, is still different in the details and the internal motivations.
In the end, we're each stuck with ourselves: We have to make the ultimate decision for ourselves about whether or not we'll change... or at least will try to change. We can't control what happens to us, or what other people do to us, but ultimately we make the decision over what we're going to do about it (or ask for help, if we don't think we can do it alone).
Even innocent victims, if they won't come out of their shells of pain and self-protection, can destroy themselves and those around them. In the end, it's still their choice over whether or not they'll try to improve their lives.
It's a hard show to watch sometimes, it's very intense and painful.
Is anyone watching this show anymore? I caught the episode the other night with the drug addict who was a singer/producer. I think his name was Tim. I could be wrong though.
His girlfriend really bothered me. She seems like a caring girl and all, but I wonder how long their relationship would last once he's better. She even admitted that she likes to be a healer. When there isn't anything left to fix, will she still be as in love with him? I don't mean to sound cruel, because I'm sure it is/was hard for her to deal with an addicted boyfriend. But it was almost as if she "enjoyed' it... that's probalby not the right word. I was really disappointed to see at the end of the show that she didn't go to treatment. She should deal with her issues.
"They want you to do a TV show?"
"Well, they want me to come up with an idea. I don't have any ideas."
"C'mon, how hard is that? Look at all the junk that's on TV."
- George and Jerry, in "The Pitch"
I'm still watching!
This show was hard. At times I felt that Tim was all for the drama - like when he took off through the swamp and hid in the drainpipe until the producer came and got him. Of course maybe attention-seeking is part of being a cocaine user. I have no clue.
As the the girlfriend and her family, I wanted to slap them all upside the head. If my daughter ever got involved with someone like this I certainly wouldn't encourage the relationship and allow her to be abused like Madyson. Nor would I allow someone in my house who was so volatile.
The entire episode had me upset. And then that follow-up: Madyson refused counselling for herself. Aaaaargh!!!