Regarding this mess with Paula Deen, the fact that she grew up in a time and place with throwing the N word around was acceptable is no excuse for her so-called ignorance. For her to be that oblivious now and for others to be making excuses for the reasons she allegedly doesn't "know any better" doesn't wash with me. Unless she's been frozen on ice for the past fortysomething years and suddenly thawed out, having missed what happened after the civil rights movement, then she definitely would know that using that word is UNACCEPTABLE.
I am extremely dissapointed with Paula. I used to watch her cooking shows religiously way back when and got a kick out of her "Southern charm". Little did I know what was under the surface. Still, when all this blew up last week I was willing to give her a pass since everyone says stupid things and makes mistakes from time to time--but then I saw that video clip of her calling black male friend out of the audience and rudely referencing his dark skin as though it were a punch line, and then I read about her history of treating her black employees differently than her white employees, to say nothing of the whole plantation wedding idea. That did her in, for me.
Who in their right mind would be so stupid as to think this would be acceptable in this day and age????
As far as the N word and who shouldn't be using it, NO ONE should be using it. Just because some dumb rapper with gold "teef" in his mouth and a chunky gold chain around his neck decided to make the word a part of daily vernacular, casually bandying it about in a so-called attempt to diminish it's meaning, doesn't take away it's meaning. It is STILL a hurtful word with YEARS of painful history behind it. None of that changes just because some a bunch of idiots decided they'd make it cool to refer to each other using the word.
And yes, it IS a double standard to say that because someone is black it's okay to use it, but then go apesh*t if a white person uses it. This is stupidity at its finest. How is this dumb notion any better than the "Blacks Only" and "Whites Only" water fountains and washrooms during the civil rights movement?
Pray tell, is THIS what Martin Luther King Jr. fought for and gave his life for? I think not.