Regarding the weight issue (from yesterday's show), there was a time in my life when it really bugged me to be told I'd lost weight, when these same people never said a word about my weight before that. I didn't need anyone to tell me I should lose weight, and I never wanted anyone to tell me that. But after I lost it, I didn't feel like hearing twenty people tell me I lost weight! I felt it was none of their business, and if they couldn't talk about my weight before, why did they think now it was okay? Because I was now "acceptable"? One woman, who ignored me when I was a fatty, as if I were an irrelevant human being, said, "you're a shadow of your former self!". These were the first words she ever uttered to me, and pretty much the last, because I told her, "considering you didn't even care to know my former self's name, I couldn't care less what you think". When another woman who had dismissed me in the past, because of my body, informed me that I had lost weight, I said, "oh, did you think I was fat?, because you never mentioned that to me, infact, you never spoke to me. I hardly see how my weight is any of your business now". I saw relationships with girlfriends change. it was fine when I was the non-threatening fatty, who made everyone else look good. Suddenly the idea of me getting asked out by someone, instead of them, was more than they could handle. And it wasn't just the women, it was the men too. They really pissed me off, because suddenly I became desirable. I told them no thanks, I still had the same personality, and if it wasn't good enough before, then you lose now. But I realized my personality had changed after I lost weight. I had become an angry young women (early twenties at the time). It had been a personal, private struggle when I fatty, it had been a personal, private struggle when I was dieting, and now suddenly everyone and their uncle was weighing in on my body. It freaked me out and I didn't handle it very well.
All these years later, I can still get a bit touchy about the subject, but nothing like when I was young. But touchy enough that I think Barbara had no business bringing Star's body into the conversation. That was unnecessary, and added nothing to the conversation, IMO.