Originally Posted by
prhoshay
Some people, and I'm pretty sure that I saw it in him, want you to take the back seat to them, and don't encourage you to go forward in your own life....for whatever reason; they want you to fall into lockstep with them. I've had 2 men like that in my life....one of whom I made the mistake of marrying. What DID work out was when I followed my own dreams, and left them behind. When I thought was excited about something, and I shared it with them and they discouraged me, or laid down some kind of ultimatum, I thought about it for about 5 seconds...got offended and insulted...and took off to do my own thing, to my benefit, might I add. It hurt my feelings more that they weren't supportive of me. I remember the military guy, basically, telling her that she wasn't going to do any better. Blew me away!
When you're young, you shouldn't allow a man to hold you back from your dream. You're still growing and maturing and don't need an extra 180 pounds (HIM) to hold you back. If you do, you will never forgive yourself, and you will come to resent him! Never Be Afraid To Follow Your Dreams! Somebody who doesn't want what YOU want for yourself, just wants to control you and hold you back! Later for the stupid stuff!
And if HE chooses/chose a life where he has no control over where he is sent and what he does...that's HIS problem, and NOT hers! Good for Chelsea!!!!:clap:clap:clap