I do agree with some of your points, but not all.Originally posted by 67cruiser
. . . . From the female viewer?s perspective, it is just another male driven show, exploiting women for the viewer?s pleasure. Again, the intrigue lies in Evan getting his just rewards by admitting the hoax. I am sure most women are waiting for this moment ? when the lady in question will spurn his affection as a result of the lie. Ladies, if Zora wins, you may not get your wish; however, Zora will probably never ever trust another male in her lifetime. . . .
Addressing the virtue aspect . . . .
Here is where the conundrum lies. In my previous posts, I have criticized Melissa M. both in character and in the physical. My criticism lies in the lie that she is telling herself. Namely, that she is ?good enough? for a very wealthy man. This lie is conceived by the perception that women tend to have towards other women. ..
Women who have accepted themselves in the character sense, can be secure because their value is not based on what other women have.
Let?s address the Melissa M ?good enough for a wealthy man theory?. Melissa M. is probably quite attractive in real life. She has a voluptuous figure that guys in high school probably revered. THE ONLY REASON SHE THOUGHT SHE WAS GOOD ENOUGH IS BECAUSE SHE HAS BEEN TAUGHT BY OTHER WOMEN TO VALUE HERSELF IN THAT MANNER. I am guessing that Melissa M. was spoiled as a child (perhaps an only child). She was used to Daddy putting out for her. She really does not think he is that smart, and she was put off by the picture, yet when the axe fell, she was in tears. She was willing to compromise her value structure in exchange for the possibility of false happiness.
Unfortunately, normal guys are really turned off by this. It is true, just look at who the wealthy guys marry ? pretty women. But how many are truly happy? Billy Joel? No, Bruce Springsteen? No, heck, even Donald Trump has not been happy. But look at someone like Jon Bon Jovi, who married his high school sweetheart. They seem very happy. Or perhaps Ozzie and Sharon. Sharon is the only reason Ozzie has not killed himself. With the impending cancer, I?m not certain how he will be able to emotionally cope with that.
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Have you considered the well known fact that many women start out in youth being insecure about their looks and turn to the hair coloring, plastic surgery, etc., because the media tells them if you don't use the products they sell, if you don't look stick thin, if you don't look just like the models in the t.v. ads and magazine covers that you are an ugly bow wow who will never get a date? Some women never get over these feelings of insecurity.
We're still in an age where women get judged by their looks, where they do feel pressured to use all the cosmetics and what all. How many guys, including the "normal" ones you mention, snap up copies or make a big deal out of the Swimsuit edition every time it comes out -- It seems like most of them. How many high school and college guys make fun of girls they're in school with whom they consider to be "ugly" -- I'd say a lot.
When I was in junior high, the boys always picked the pretty, thin girls who wore make up. At that point in life, I wore thick glasses and didn't wear makeup (I am a female BTW, not a cross- dresser guy).
One day in junior high school, as I was taking my place at my desk, I noticed that the boy behind me had taped a photo of a model who was in a bikini onto his book cover. While I was standing there thinking, "This guy is a sexist pig," he looked at me and said, "I know why you're staring at her picture -- you only WISH you could look like her."
There may be a handful of decent men on the planet, but it's been my life experience that most guys are only interested in looks, or, if it's not the sole criteria they use to rate women, it still falls in the top 5 somewhere.
Even on this Joe Millionaire show, Evan keeps checking out the women and regularly commenting on their looks. He said in an interview on the show that he couldn't 'keep his eyes off Melissa's 'ta ta's.'
(To give credit to the guy: yes, he has also made comments about liking this or that woman because she is nice, classy, or what not. However, some of his views tend to boil down to: Girl A has nice legs, or Girl B has nice ta-ta's, so that's the only reason Girl B did not get booted off.)
I don't think that your Billy Joel's, Donald Trump's, etc. would even CONSIDER 1.) dating a chick their own age 2.) an overweight chick 3.) a flat chested chick. It seems to me that so called "normal guys" want the young, busty, pretty types as well, if they can get one.
--This was one of the premises behind the Al Bundy character on the old t.v. show "Married With Children". Off the screen, it's not unheard of for the middle-aged, balding, pudgy boss to start an affair with his leggy secretary.
How many men would buy Playboy magazine if it featured women who were not what American males consider to be sexy, sexy to most white American males being huge kazonga's, stick thin, no cellulite or no flab at all? Not many.
Yes, I'm aware that some women tape photos of half naked guys up sometimes. However, lusting after a person, or judging their worth or merits based upon looks seems to be predominantly a male trait. I've seen plenty of pretty women who date or marry ugly guys. How often would you see the reverse? Not often.
If you're into 'natural beauties' --
I've heard some guys say that they actually prefer women who don't wear make up, etc., and I laugh. Very few women go without makeup, and we ladies have a way of applying make-up so that it looks as though we are NOT wearing any (.eg., still use concealer and foundation to cover imperfections; using clear or brown mascara rather than black; wearing clear lip gloss / flesh- or pink- colored lip stick, rather than reds etc).
It's hard for some women to be confident just as they already are when society and media tells them that they look like dogs. And many men, even the "normal" ones, focus too much upon the physical traits of women. Thus we have Marilyn Monroe singing, "Men grow cold as girls grow old, and we all lose our charms in the end... But square cut or pear shaped, these rocks don't lose their shapes, Diamonds are a girl's best friend!"