I realize that email and postings are a difficult means to try to communicate. I am fairly certain that I never said "letting them believe one is interested in a serious relationship". I'm not criticizing women at at large, I'm making an observation.Originally posted by Jill
So it's not OK to want someone to lean on, but its OK to let all sorts of men give one expensive gifts and travel while apparently letting them believe one is interested in a serious relationship(leading to marriage proposals)? I'm having a lot of trouble justifying your criticism of other women against what you have told us.
Let me try to convey some clarity: the gifts were all surprises given to me. As I wrote on another thread, I stopped accepting diamonds when I became enlightened to the war/suffering aspects of them. And I certainly never accepted gifts from men who I felt were using them to buy my companionship.
Dating is an exploratory activity. I was always asked out on subsequent dates. Some I accepted and some I did not. I might add that the gifts were without exception given to me on the FIRST DATE. One of the gifts from an Englishman means a lot to me because he took the time to think about the things I am interested in. It was a book!
And this is not a one-way street with the gift-giving. If I dated a man more than once, I thought about what types of things a date might be interested in and gave gifts as well. You might think this is silly, but I took 5 cans of car paint to one of my dates because he couldn't get it to match his car in France. He was ecstatic that he got matching paint for one of his collector cars.
As I said, email & postings are sometimes difficult to convey exact meanings. I try my best to write with clarity, but apparently I'm not the best at it.