Spockwhat, I truly do understand what you're saying here. I think I'm the one who said she'd not go gentle into the night (Dylan Thomas). I didn't mean I'd rage about aging...but I do find myself doing/trying certain things that "help" the aging process go a little slower, i.e. good facial care, including new advances in anti-wrinkle creams, using products that keep my long eyelashes even longer, covering grey hairs with color, wearing nice but age appropriate clothes (staying in fashion without trendy items instead of wearing the same things that looked good at 40, & the same for makeup, hairstyles, etc), tending to keeping my nails/toes in good shape, exfoiliating, lots of moisturizers, etc.
I have no intention of going under the knife to achieve a "younger" look but I'm not against keeping myself looking as good as I can.
I'll admit that I don't have the same perspective about being ok with not turning heads anymore...I miss it ...maybe a lot....but I accept it.
It's possible that I feel this way because I'm a long way from being in my '40's and that may have changed my perspective somewhat. I used to feel just as you did. I may be more vain than I thought I was because I'm not thrilled with the changes but I know I'd hate to look like a lot of those Real Housewives and their strange looks, with fat lips, fat cheeks, eyebrows lifted to their hairline, etc. so the plastic surgeons won't be getting any of my money.
I just deal with it day by day. I miss my old young face and particularly my smooth neck but I adjust and do my best to accept it.
I must admit though that the best part of aging is our gained wisdom and way of thinking. Wouldn't trade that for my younger brain ever!