If it were me, I wouldn't make it about the money with your friends... Do they have kids? In the real world, people with two little kids just don't go out like that anymore... I know the ones I know don't, or really CAN'T... My brother's got two little kids... Happy Hour? That's when they're typically feeding, chasing, bathing, chasing, changing, chasing... Getting them ready for bed... That should be a busy time of day... Going out for drinks requires sitters, days of planning, an act of congress... 3 times a WEEK? Once a month if they're LUCKY!