I didn't see a thread about this, so hopefully I didn't just overlook it.
I've been trying to make a decision about something and I finally decided to turn to FORT for some much needed advice. I'm hoping there are some children of divorce out there that can give me their own opinion about what I should do.
I've been married once before and I'm going to be getting married again very soon. I've been struggling with whether I should keep my former married name as a legal part of my new name or not. Its not because of any nostalgia, as my first marriage was nothing but a living hell from beginning to end. However, I have a daughter from my first marriage and it would seem weird not to have her last name as part of my name.
I'm afraid she'll feel left out, as well, because she'd be the only one in the household with a different last name. Its particularly annoying because my first husband barely even contacts my daughter, much less have much of a role in her life. She's come to know my soon-to-be husband as her acting father and doesn't even give much thought to her "real" dad except to be sad when she dwells on the fact he doesn't call her. So keeping his name in mine is even more galling. However, I would never want make the decision to remove it from hers because its part of who she is, for better or worse (though I wouldn't blame her if she wanted to do it one day).
Did any of you have a mother remarry and change her name? Did it even affect you if it did? I'm wondering if I'm overthinking this and maybe she won't even care now or down the road (she's six right now). Any thoughts would be appreciated.