MRD, maybe they're just borrowing her for a little while. While I never had a daughter, I was one once, and I was a little bit of a mixture between Dennis the Menace, Snoop Dog, and Lolita. Whew! My mom told me when I had 3 sons that God was paying me back!
Maybe she is trying to spout a little (a lot) independence and doesn't know a smooth way to do it. Try to think of her as your little red-headed stepchild who is only visiting for a short while. And then when it gets to be too much, tell her you're going to rip her lips off.(That's what my best friend used to tell my kids when they misbehaved at her house!)