Regional Dialects/Odd Sayings - Page 62

ArchieComic Fan · 04-19-2006, 11:14 PM

I took a southern quiz a while back and don't remember my score. However, I wanted to pop in and say that I absolutely hate it when any woman calls me "sweetie", "sugar", "honey" or "darlin" or anything else along those lines. I don't care if it's a southern thing. I hate, hate, hate it!!!

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misskitty · 04-20-2006, 04:41 PM

It's always been fun talking to my Baba, who's from the Ukraine. She always says to "open" and "close" things instead of turning them on and off. Like the t.v., the lights, the stove burners. And she can't say certain letters. For instance, she'll say to put the flowers in a waz....vase!

Sometimes she just gets us baffled and we have to try and figure out what it is she's said. It's just too cute sometimes.

AJane · 04-20-2006, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by ArchieComic Fan

I took a southern quiz a while back and don't remember my score. However, I wanted to pop in and say that I absolutely hate it when any woman calls me "sweetie", "sugar", "honey" or "darlin" or anything else along those lines. I don't care if it's a southern thing. I hate, hate, hate it!!!

My mother "dear's" everyone, from family members to servers at restaurants. "Thank you, dear." "Yes, please, dear." "Dear, could you get me some more hot water for my tea? And could I have milk instead of cream? Thank you, dear."

She's 71 now so she gets away with it...impossible to get mad at a sweet little old lady who is smiling at you the whole time. My point is, I was guilty of doing that very thing (not so much "dear", more "honey", "sweetie", and "darlin'") so I blame my mother for her bad influence

but I have improved greatly over the past while and save the endearments for my husband and daughters. It IS a very bad habit.

ArchieComic Fan · 04-20-2006, 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by AJane

My mother "dear's" everyone, from family members to servers at restaurants. "Thank you, dear." "Yes, please, dear." "Dear, could you get me some more hot water for my tea? And could I have milk instead of cream? Thank you, dear."

She's 71 now so she gets away with it...impossible to get mad at a sweet little old lady who is smiling at you the whole time. My point is, I was guilty of doing that very thing (not so much "dear", more "honey", "sweetie", and "darlin'") so I blame my mother for her bad influence

but I have improved greatly over the past while and save the endearments for my husband and daughters. It IS a very bad habit.

Your right AJane, it doesn't really bother me when an elderly lady does it but many times it's a woman my age or younger and it just rubs me wrong, as if they are taking liberties that they know me well enough to use such endearments. I'm glad you're on the road to recovery! And you can always pick the habit up again when you're your mom's age

myrosiedog · 04-20-2006, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by ArchieComic Fan

Your right AJane, it doesn't really bother me when an elderly lady does it but many times it's a woman my age or younger and it just rubs me wrong, as if they are taking liberties that they know me well enough to use such endearments. I'm glad you're on the road to recovery! And you can always pick the habit up again when you're your mom's age

I say those things, but mostly to people that I am very close too, friends and family. I wouldn't say it to someone in a restuarant.

Personally I don't mind if someone does it to me. It's a darn sight better than
"HEY YOU"

gabriel · 04-20-2006, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by AJane

My mother "dear's" everyone, from family members to servers at restaurants. "Thank you, dear." "Yes, please, dear." "Dear, could you get me some more hot water for my tea? And could I have milk instead of cream? Thank you, dear."

She's 71 now so she gets away with it...impossible to get mad at a sweet little old lady who is smiling at you the whole time. My point is, I was guilty of doing that very thing (not so much "dear", more "honey", "sweetie", and "darlin'") so I blame my mother for her bad influence

but I have improved greatly over the past while and save the endearments for my husband and daughters. It IS a very bad habit.

Well I work in a large retirement community/independent living/alzheimers/nursing care campus and it seems like I call everyone HON... I'm 48 and a guy. maybe my being a gay guy has something to do with it?

misskitty · 04-21-2006, 02:44 AM

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Originally Posted by gabriel

Well I work in a large retirement community/independent living/alzheimers/nursing care campus and it seems like I call everyone HON... I'm 48 and a guy. maybe my being a gay guy has something to do with it?

No darlin, you're just a dear sweet honey!

geek the girl · 04-21-2006, 05:59 AM

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Originally Posted by ArchieComic Fan

I took a southern quiz a while back and don't remember my score. However, I wanted to pop in and say that I absolutely hate it when any woman calls me "sweetie", "sugar", "honey" or "darlin" or anything else along those lines. I don't care if it's a southern thing. I hate, hate, hate it!!!

See, and I actually find that quite endearing. When I was over in Florida, I got "deared" and "sweetied" constantly by cute little old ladies and thought it was really sweet. It's like AJane said: who could possibly hold a grudge against a smiling, good-natured old lady? (I wouldn't mind being called "hon" by you either, gabriel!

) But then again, Scandinavians tend to keep to themselves and wouldn't dream of addressing a perfect stranger in an even remotely nice or semi-affectionate way. Heck, most of us wouldn't dream of addressing a stranger at all! I could just be starved for any type of affection - or even attention! - from strangers, I guess, even if it's of a strictly linguistic nature.

We're a pretty unfriendly bunch, at least compared to Americans who, at least in my experience, tend to be more sociable and open towards strangers.

Anyway, regarding the "dear"/"sweetie"/"hon" thing. I remember the shock I had when I, nineteen and fresh out of high-school, arrived in London and was repeatedly called "luv", "sweetheart" and "doll" by the (male) taxi driver driving me from the airport. At first I thought he was coming on to me! I wasn't sure whether to feel flattered or, given my then rather vocal feminist views, indignant. Very confusing.

ArchieComic Fan · 04-21-2006, 08:59 AM

Well I'm a sucker for an English accent so I probably wouldn't mind the terms of endearment from someone with one ha ha! French, Italian, English, Australian - I love to hear people speak with those accents. My main gripe is with women my age or younger, not elderly ladies.

canuckinchile · 04-21-2006, 09:48 AM

I think it depends on the way it is said, and who is saying it. Most of the time I don't care if someone calls me "dear" etc., especially if they are older, or if it is done with a nice tone of voice. However, it can be used very condescendingly and in that case I usually answer beginning with "Well, dear (honey, sweetie) or whatever they just called me....to make a point. I don't know why I bother because it usually flies over their head.

04-20-2006, 04:41 PM	#612
misskitty Got Cattitude Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: In the Kat House in Kanada Posts: 7,695	It's always been fun talking to my Baba, who's from the Ukraine. She always says to "open" and "close" things instead of turning them on and off. Like the t.v., the lights, the stove burners. And she can't say certain letters. For instance, she'll say to put the flowers in a waz....vase! Sometimes she just gets us baffled and we have to try and figure out what it is she's said. It's just too cute sometimes. __________________ Live simply ~ Love generously~ Care deeply~ Speak kindly

04-19-2006, 11:14 PM	#611
ArchieComic Fan Wait, what? Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: The Funny Farm Posts: 4,340	I took a southern quiz a while back and don't remember my score. However, I wanted to pop in and say that I absolutely hate it when any woman calls me "sweetie", "sugar", "honey" or "darlin" or anything else along those lines. I don't care if it's a southern thing. I hate, hate, hate it!!!

04-21-2006, 08:59 AM	#619
ArchieComic Fan Wait, what? Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: The Funny Farm Posts: 4,340	Well I'm a sucker for an English accent so I probably wouldn't mind the terms of endearment from someone with one ha ha! French, Italian, English, Australian - I love to hear people speak with those accents. My main gripe is with women my age or younger, not elderly ladies.

04-21-2006, 09:48 AM	#620
canuckinchile FORT Fogey Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: back in "The Big Smoke" Posts: 5,292	I think it depends on the way it is said, and who is saying it. Most of the time I don't care if someone calls me "dear" etc., especially if they are older, or if it is done with a nice tone of voice. However, it can be used very condescendingly and in that case I usually answer beginning with "Well, dear (honey, sweetie) or whatever they just called me....to make a point. I don't know why I bother because it usually flies over their head.