PGM-maybe send some flowers after the surgery. Wait a day or so and offer to bring dinner? lol we sound like we're planning a courtship.
onei0091- I wasn't sure of your question but this is what I got, correct me if I'm wrong. IL relationships-who (if anyone) has more responsibility to make an effort. I would say both have an equal responsibility. 20 years ago I would've said the elders...but then I would've been going on the assumption that the older a person is, the more mature they are. lol it isn't true. Some people never mature. So I'll say it is equally on both parties. And IL relationships are very important and can be very rewarding too.