Originally Posted by Nemeses;2816268;
Once all of my cousins and me had reached the age where we could act on our own knowing better, my grandmother used to joke that she was going to make decisions on Christmas and birthday gift giving based on receiving thank you notes for previous gifts. If you didn't write her a thank you note, you wouldn't get a gift.
After she passed away, I was given the job of assisting in organizing/auditing/accounting for her checkbook. In going through that process, we discovered that she had done exactly what she threatened. I had always assumed that all of her grandchildren received checks as gifts in the same amounts. It turns out my sister and me (the thank you note writers) were given larger gifts. Everyone got a gift, but they were not the same amount.
Of course, I would assume my cousins had no idea that they were receiving less. But I'm guessing it made her feel better to know that good manners were being rewarded by her.