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It absolutely has. My daughter is graduating from HS next month and while we will be having a small party for close friends and family a lot of her friends parents are renting event halls and these kids are registering for gifts at Bed Bath & Beyond.Originally Posted by Veruka;2996065;
Someone I work with told me that she convinced her daughter to have a graduation party...the girl hadn't wanted one. But this woman told her daughter that people usually bring cash gifts to graduation parties, so then the daughter wanted one.She invited me to the kid's party and I said I couldn't come. Couldn't ... don't want to ... same difference at this point. I think it's incredibly tacky to tell me this. I think it's even worse to tell your child to throw a party so you can get money. FYI, I'm not friends with this woman and I've never even met this kid, so I don't even feel obligated to send a card.
I think the reason my parents didn't do things like this was because they hated the whole idea of "begging" for gifts. (Their words, not mine.) I don't think graduation parties are bad--and I'm going to one!I just hate it when things like this are given primarily to elicit gifts. (It's like when you're invited to a wedding for someone you barely know and you just KNOW they're hoping you won't come but will still feel obligated to send a gift.)
Actually, maybe I'll make a donation to my favorite charity in this kid's name. I won't feel bad about giving the money to the charity...and it might tick the kid off, too.
Oh...I'm so bad!
We had a graduation party at our house for our daughter when she graduated HS last year and hers was very low key compared to some of her classmates. Catered food at halls with bands.
She received everything from congrats cards to large amounts of cash. (And sent thank you notes to all!)
I agree Gabriel, registering is shallow, and tacky, and ....
My favorite gift to give, and I only do it for a select few, are "Help, I need cookies!!" postcards. I give them a half dozen stamped postcards, addressed to me, with several different types of cookies listed and they just have to check what they are craving and drop it in the mail. I bake them up and send them a care package at college.
When I graduated from High School, our next door neighbor (who was an elderly man) sent me a Waterford Crystal ring holder. I received a lot of other gifts from both High School and College graduations, but I love his gift the most.
When I graduated a few kids got lots of gifts, but for the most part people I graduated with got cards with 10 to 20 bucks inside, from only the closest family--parents and grandparents. I don't know of anyone who would have dared send annoncements to their parent's friends. If it were me, I'd only send a gift if I were super close with not just the parents but the kid too. If not, maybe a card--if they were lucky. Even if I did give money, I would think $25 plenty. I agree that too many weddings, birthdays, and graduations have become excuses to shamelessly troll for lots and lots of gifts, and not just token gifts either.
Everything in life does not warrant a gift. Whatever happened to doing something simply because it was a requirement of life? Guess that shows my age.
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What a great idea! It's always such a treat to get home baked goodies!