My dad remarried and retired a few months after my mom died and then planned to move to another city. He offered to let me come over and take whatever I wanted of my mom's but stuff didn't matter to me in my grief and I wasn't ready to face reminders of her. I'm still not able to look at pictures of her and it's been over 5 years since she died. Sometimes I wonder if I should have gotten something in case I wanted it later but for now, I'm happy enough with the memories of her. The way she was in the last few years of her life, when she had cancer, was not the way she was during most of her life so I'd rather have memories of her from happier times.