Famita, that is EXACTLY how we all felt. My dad got really sick and was in the ICU a few months prior to his passing. His doctor actually thought he was going to die then and was preparing us for it...and we all said that it is better for him to pass and not have to suffer anymore than to "live" the way he was...surviving, but not really living. He also had a "Do Not Recusitate" order, and I know that we could've had that legally changed, but we didn't. He ended up recovering (sort of) and lived for another few months. His quality of life was horrible and it was so sad to see him this way--he had been so vibrant and active. When he did pass away, I felt exactly the same as you. I was so thankful he was no longer suffering, but I also felt so alone. On a completely selfish level, I wanted him to linger on. But...that would've been for me. He would've been in pain and suffering.Originally Posted by famita;3007025;
I think there's something to be said for peace of mind as well. My dad was fine with all of us (his kids) and he knew that we would take care of our mom and that she wouldn't have to worry about anything... But he had some rotten extended family members who had been horrible to him for a long time. They ended up coming and asking for his forgiveness and saying how they had been completely wrong and that they loved him very much. He died after that visit. I think he felt at peace...that the wrongs finally had been righted and that he wasn't leaving any unfinished business. He was at peace.
OK, now I'm going to start bawling.
Anyhow...I just wanted to say that I know exactly how you feel.