I started to post a paragraph long rant on the "What are you thankful for" thread and then realized it wasn't very thankful of me. So here is a place to rant about your in-laws, not to get advice, but just to get it off your chest.
My parents-in-law come to my house about three times a year for at least ten days each visit. I love and appreciate them both, but when I'm around them for that long a few things get under my skin. They are currently at our house for Thanksgiving and it has already started.
First of all, they stay up very late in our family room watching the television and it's turned up, waaaay up. We have vaulted ceilings so it echoes. Occasionally we give up and tell them to turn it down. The thing is, there is a television in the guest room where they sleep. When everyone else has gone to bed, why do they stay downstairs watching TV in the room next to my bedroom? Are they making sure that my husband and I don't "enjoy" each other when they visit? Grrr, cause it's working.
Second, STOP USING METAL UTENSILS IN MY TEFLON PANS!! I have told my mother-in-law at least a dozen times that it scratches up the surface and ruins the pans. So what does she do yesterday? She mashes potatoes in my big stock pot with a metal potato masher. None of my non-stick pans are in good condition anymore because of her. They have spots or scrapes where the teflon has been etched off by metal spoons and such. Why is it so hard to understand? Don't they have T-Fal in other parts of the country?
And last (for now), I think my mother-in-law is threatened by anyone who can cook. I'm a decent cook, not a master chef by any means, but I can whip up a fancy dinner and my children enjoy a variety of meals. My mother-in-law is full-blooded Italian and I think she thinks cooking is her badge of honor, or something. I can't cook a meal without her contributing a side dish. It's okay most of the time, and I don't mind, but for Thanksgiving dinner it's kind of got me perturbed. One of my strengths is baking and I enjoy making a loaf of french bread or fresh dinner rolls for Thanksgiving dinner. She picked up two baguettes yesterday so I wouldn't have to bake. She knows I enjoy baking. I graciously said thank you and pretended that it was a big load off, but I'm really disappointed because fresh dinner rolls remind me of Thanksgiving at my mom's house. Then I have the whole meal planned out, but I made sure to include her by asking her to make the antipasto and macaroni that traditionally come before the Turkey in an Italian dinner. I'm making a big Turkey, home-made stuffing with fresh sage and apples, fresh cranberry sauce, mashed potatoes, and an endive/pear/pecan salad and for dessert pumpkin pie and an apple crumble. I feel like I'm missing something, it's a big dinner, trust me. Now she insists on making butternut squash because it's a tradition. But I've had Thanksgiving with her for the last 4 or 5 years and this is the first time it's popped up. Next year I'm just going to give up and let her do the whole damn thing so it doesn't feel like a cooking power struggle.
So how good or bad are your in-laws?