WEll it took me 17 YEARS to finally speak up. I had put up with so much crap and was still going out of my way to be nice to her with her not being so nice in return.Originally Posted by onei0091;3190040;
I am a fairly easy person to get along with, but when I'm done, I'm DONE and look out to the one that has finally been the straw that broke the camel's back.
Still when I said that, I wasn't rude or nasty. I just stated what I considered to be a fact. Anyone else, I might have unleashed my inner *itch on.
Still it FELT GREAT to say it and it was even better when she moved away.
I knew my husbands sister before I knew him. Then when he and I were going to get married I met the rest of the family (hubby has 4 siblings) and my first thought was how are he and his sister so normal when the rest are so far out there? I've since found out his sister isn't normal either. But he's definetly nothing like the rest of them. His sister is adopted and I used to think he HAD to have been adopted too because he is so unlike the rest of the family. Since his mom died, we've had no contact in 2 years with any of them. They are mad at us for some perceived wrong having to do with putting his mom into a nursing home. (She and his brother were in TN., we were in Florida getting ready to move to SC and I can't figure out exactly what we were supposed to do that they are all mad at us now. But my husband is actually fine with it. When we were told his mom had passed, his first words were: "now I dont' have to ever see the rest of them again."
That has to tell you something.
I could have SO written this post. I was so surprised when I met my husbands family too. He was the first one in his family to go let alone graduate from college and his mom said: "he's getting above his raising"Originally Posted by onei0091;3190247;
What mom says that about her son going to college??? They should have been proud, not drag him down because of it.
But my husband never gave me the heads up either. Later he did say that he didn't have that great a relationship with them and avoided them as much as possible and didn't think about alerting me. We got over it. He didn't like being around them anymore than I did. But he did feel a sense of duty and responsibility or we would have cut off contact a long time ago. I am proud of him that he did feel that responsibility and we did help them when his dad got sick and died and we tried to help his mother later too, but she made it so difficult and he limited his own contact with them as he knew they were toxic.
He had a GREAT relationship with my parents and my parents loved him. But my parents treated him better than his parents had EVER treated him. He didn't have a horrible childhood, but he missed out on a lot. His mother was not loving and so he ended up being a loner because they were never interested in anything he did.So he just did what he wanted to by himself. Which is probably why he's so different than them. But he never had a birthday party, got taken to the circus. Only received ONE gift on Christmas and no stocking ever. He's still kind of a loner, but he has come so far from his upbrining and that's a good thing. He would be the kind of son anyone would be proud to have. I never could figure out why they weren't proud of him, but thought the sun shone out of the butts of the loser brothers.