burnt, wow. I think the smoking thing would bother me more than the furniture (although that's annoying, too). I guess if she insists on buying furniture, circle something in a catalog and tell her that's what you and Mr. Burnt wanted to buy in the future. It'd be nice if she just gave you the money for it instead. My parents knew I was always particular about things, so they would tell me to pick out something I liked and they would reimburse me for it and it would be their gift to me. We all got what we wanted--they got to be super generous and didn't have to go shopping...and I got to go shopping!