One of my co-workers just got back from Russia with his baby boy. He had been trying to adopt/invitro for a long time, and had a great lawyer but couldn't take the US adoption system, he said it was like they're trying to get you to go overseas. he also had a huge fear that the child would end up back with the birth mother after they bonded.
His Russian child is a beautiful 1 year old baby boy (and he and his wife are both mid-forties) just be aware of the tremendous cost, well over 50,000 with all the flight's (and greasing of palms, he said they toy with you A LOT once there, and then choose the hotel for you to stay in which was well over 10 times the cost of the ones on hotel.com, etc.). In fact, to get back to the US they were keeping him, until he paid them more money and then VOILA it's all through. But even so, it took at least a year to get this beautiful child.
And to reiiterate on the telling - I also had a friend that was adopted, and his parents never bothered to tell him. Then one day he was going through their closet looking for something and found that cliched shoebox. Turns out his mother fought to have him returned and there was a legal battle, his adopted parents - being ministers - proved they were better suited for the boy. Tough way to find out that you were not only adopted, but that your real mother whom you never met wanted you all along. And yeah, he's real messed up from that. Lieing is not good.
I wish you the best in whatever you choose! Taking in and raising a child is just so awesome.