I hate driving in bad weather and what we get is a piece of cake compared to what you get, so I don't blame you at all.
And you and everyone else is right, he hasn't exactly showed much of wanting to be family either. But then again, I'm a softy and I"d feel like I had to go if he asked me. Thus my earlier post about being conflicted. But when I sat down and really thought about it, then I thought, he hasn't exactly endeared himself to you at all, so why bother.
Your Valentines sound really cool and a lot of fun to do.
Snakes don't bother me. I don't seek them out, but I don't mind them. I have a friend who's husband has snakes as pets. The first time I was at their house, I think he thought he'd freak me out by bringing one out of the cage. I just calmly kept talking to my friend and in mid-sentence with her, reached out and touched the snake on the top of the head. Since I didn't freak and didn't appear to be scared, he put it back in the cage and doesn't try that with me anymore. Part of that was him trying to be an ass and me not lettting it get to me, but part of it is that they just don't bother me. Now frogs? That I will run screaming like a little girl about. Seriously, hate those jumpy, slimy things.