My father-in-law received a military funeral with full honors. They are so impressive. He was buried in a National cemetary and dozens of these funerals are done each week. They plated Taps and it always brings tears to my eyes. He was buried in his uniform too and it still fit him as well!!!Originally Posted by veejer;2786157;
My husband would love to have the flag now that his mom is gone, but the (I can't say the bad words) SIL that has it won't give it up.
The Civil Rights thing was just absolutely amazing.
Found out some very interesting things and these two men (two dropped of the panel because they were sick) were just incredible. One if my husbands new boss.
They spoke a bit and then opened it up to questions. They were asked how come they aren't bitter now and both men said, why be bitter. It's negative. They had some positive experiences (despite getting arrested several times) but that integration was fairly peaceful here and they had no animosity towards anyone. The goal was bring everyone, black and white together and having bitterness would have not reached that goal. But both said thew knew people that were still very, very bitter.
One thing that they kept saying that I think was the key for them and is the key now that we don't have was this: "my parents...", "my father.....", "my mother...."
So many of their stories started off and revolved around a very tight family unit and they did say that they do not think that today's kids have that tight of a family unit today.
They also said that they think the movement went from the 60's to about 1998 really well, but that since 1998 until now, tey see it backsliding in our society.
Another VERY interesting thing: They were asked what they've told their children and grandchildren. ONe man spoke and said that he doesn't want to hang all that on his kids and keep reminding them about it. The other said that the black community has looked towards the Jewish community for advice and help on how to keep this story alive without it becoming too much of a burden on their own kids. Since the Jewish community has said "never forget" about the Holocost, they are helping the black community find ways to balance telling the stories without making it a burden on subsequent generations.
All in all a very moving evening. And to imagine that these were high school kids when they started this. One was my daughter's age of 16 and he was the ONLY African American to integrate his highschool for the first year. He said he went to school all year with a police escort. But he also told a funny story saying he came home and told his dad: "daddy, I'm going to play football" and his dad said: "son, you're crazy. They're looking for a reason to beat the you know what out of you and now you're going to give them a reason where its ok for them to do it?" He did play football and became fairly famous as being the first African American player to integrate highschool football in this city. He also said that they learned early on to give him the ball because no one wanted to touch him because he was black. So he became the team's secret weapon. Give it to Ricky, and he'll get it through, because no one wants to tackle him.
I just had to marvel at the level of bravery these "kids" showed and their parents. Their parents knew what could happen and still encouraged them to do these things because they knew if they didn't, it would NEVER get any better.
Just an incredible evening.
Oh and one other thing. My husband's boss, Jimmy, said that when he got arrested for the lunch counter protest, that his name was in the paper and it mentioned his parents as well. His dad LOST HIS JOB because of his son getting arrested for protesting. A lot of parents were scared of that very thing and didn't allow their kids to protest. But he said his dad never held it against him ad told him that they would "get by" but it was important for him to continue to push this and get these laws repealed whether he lost his job or not.