I think your real issue here is this sentence-- you feel like he's saying you aren't 'worth' the effort. Do try not projecting your feelings of what you would do into the situation. He is not you, so that's not fair.Originally Posted by misskitty;2735481;
I for one would never, ever, re-gift anything someone gave me as a christmas or birthday gift, to anyone. Nor will I be the one showing up with no, or late gift. And I usually bear in mind things I've heard the recipient say they would like to have, or I'll ask someone in the family etc.who knows for sure!
BUT, L (my sweetie ) does not operate that way and never has. In 15 years, half the time he is late with the gift, I have to spell out exactly what I want even though I've repeatedly said I'd prefer a surprise, gotten cash or gift cards even though I don't like cash/card gifts, and so forth. This year he says he has a little surprise for me, but i haven't got it yet. That's to go with the other gift that I wanted, but had to actually go online and order for myself using his credit card. Which by the way was nothing romantic, but a car vacuum!
I don't feel a bit put out by this. In the past, with other guys, I might have, but I KNOW I'm loved and cared about, so the gift thing doesn't really matter to me even a little bit. I was sort of surprised the first couple times, but now I'd be absolutely shocked if I got a special, girly gift selected just for me, purchased, wrapped up and at my house on or before Christmas. (And yes, I always have his ontime, wrapped, and picked out specially)