This is one of those etiquette questions that I'd like folks to weigh in on.
When receiving a birth announcement from a friend or family member, is one obliged to send a gift, be it monetary or other-wise? I'm pretty sure Emily Post says no, that a congratulatory card is sufficient, but I could never do that nor do I want to ignore the announcement. It is the married daughter of my husband's first cousin. We are not particularly close to her but we were invited to her wedding. Right now she is living in New England, while her husband is finishing up his residency. Next year they will move back to NYC. I was going to use Amazon to send a gift directly but I am pretty sure they are living in a small apartment and probably don't need more stuff. I'm thinking along the lines of sending a card with a check. I really do prefer to buy a gift for a baby, but there was no baby shower nor is there a registry and I have no idea what is needed. The baby is just over 2 months old now. DH called his brother and asked if he got a the birth announcement and if so what was he sending. Brother said he did get it and wasn't sending anything. This is not unusual for him and his wife. We've consulted with him in the past about similar things and he always says he is not sending anything. I don't understand how my s.i.l. doesn't feel strange about that, but whatever. He did say, when pressed by my hubby about why he wouldn't send something for a baby with :My bird just laid an egg, should I send out an announcement?
What say you, FoRT peeps?
I don't know what is proper etiquette, but I don't think a baby announcement requires a gift, especially if you weren't particularly close. Why can't it just be joyous news that a new soul made it into the world?
I wouldn't fee obligated to send anything . . . BUT
If you do want to, maybe a Visa gift card? They can use it anywhere and get what they really need.
And I would say ABSOLUTELY! Nothing more fun than shopping for a baby, and there's nothing more meaningful than receiving something that can be handed down for generations. Buy them a set of baby silverware! It's a tiny gift that will take up very little space! They're going to need it anyway! AND every time it is used they will think of you! (If you don't like this idea, I have a gazillion others. )
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ECM , I would say it's up to you, and if you feel like sending a gift, do so.
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I like to send gifts, too. The last wedding I went to, I was the only one to bring a wrapped gift. Everyone else gave a monetary envelope. I think that's a little sad. Sure everyone can use money, but they won't remember the gift once it's used.
One gift I like to give for a baby is a book on baby signing for hearing babies. I did a research paper on it in grad school. It has long lasting positive effects, can give the baby the ability to communicate much earlier than speech.
Last edited by Gutmutter; 03-01-2017 at 06:12 PM.
Count your blessings!
I like the idea of a gift vs money, too, especially when buying for little girls, since I am a mom of sons.
As far as the monetary wedding gift, well, I will leave that for another day. My thoughts on that caused quite a stir for my Mid-western friends on another forum. Let's just say that for as long as I can remember, we of a certain ethnic background, living in NY/NJ area have always given monetary gifts.
Thanks to Mom I held onto many of my beloved childhood books. So my favorite baby present has been giving them as presents, but only to babies who are special to me.
I am a gift giver. I send to everyone. I love it.
AND esp a baby gift...Lordy, you can get a $8.00 sleeper pj by Carter's at WalMart/Target today.