You're a saint, Debb. And I'm not saying that lightly. I really admire your dedication to this relative and her sad condition. So many would say that their life is just too busy and someone else will have to care. But, it seems that everyone else has already taken that stand. Your parents are so lucky to have such a competent and caring daughter when the time comes that they need your kind ministrations and help. They'll be in excellent and "informed" hands!