Oh my Lord, Debb - what a saint you are to commit to such a kindness with your own job and parents to take care of. What would happen if you did nothing? Not that I'm suggesting that! Who steps in, or does the person just go downhill without any intervention? If she knows she's having trouble, I'd get the cat out and then tell her, "Don't you remember we agreed to that?" A little white lie, yes, but in the grand scheme of things, maybe necessary. I'll be thinking of you and hope things are resolved this week. Bless you.