I have no problem with letting people know what I'd like as a gift. My mother in law used to ask us for Christmas lists every year but she NEVER, EVER gave any of us anything that was on the list. I honestly think that she wanted the list so she didn't accidentally get one of us something that we might actually like! I always tell my husband what I want for my birthday and our anniversary. We've stopped giving each other Christmas gifts. We both enjoy spending the money on the grandkids and watching them enjoy the holiday.