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    My daughter's cousin gave her a pair of open toed, high heeled, sling back black dress shoes one time. Daughter was going into 7th grade of Jr High. She wanted to wear them to school. I told her they weren't appropriate for school, but when we went somewhere where we got dressed up, then she could wear them there.
    Well, one day shortly after, I was straightening things up & moved her school backpack, which was partially opened. The shoes fell out. She had been sneaking them to school & changing into them there.

    I got a scissors & called her into her room & asked her to sit on the bed. I picked up the backpack & pulled out the shoes & said innocently "look what I found in there". I then took the scissors & cut the back straps in half. Then I cut down the front of the shoes & out the toes. I gave them to her & calmly said "That's what I think of your decision to sneak those shoes out to school". "You pull any stunt like that again & the result will be worse. More clothes will go." Then I just walked out of the room.

    I periodically checked her backpack after that for "unauthorized" clothes, although I never told her I did. Apparently it worked, because she always wore appropriate clothes after that.
    Although, as she got older, jeans, T-shirts, sweatshirts, & sneakers had become her near always attire. So that kind of solved the problem in itself.
    Miss Scarlet that sounds like something I would do. Our kids grow up to fast as it is there is no need to rush them into looking older because they get there fast enough. I won't even start on my rant in how girls dress now. I will say one thing and that is if you want your daughter to look like a street walker let her dress like one and then she will be called one and only the parent has themselves to blame. My daughter didn't get to wear tops that showed cleavage.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss Scarlet View Post
    My daughter's cousin gave her a pair of open toed, high heeled, sling back black dress shoes one time. Daughter was going into 7th grade of Jr High. She wanted to wear them to school. I told her they weren't appropriate for school, but when we went somewhere where we got dressed up, then she could wear them there.
    Well, one day shortly after, I was straightening things up & moved her school backpack, which was partially opened. The shoes fell out. She had been sneaking them to school & changing into them there.

    I got a scissors & called her into her room & asked her to sit on the bed. I picked up the backpack & pulled out the shoes & said innocently "look what I found in there". I then took the scissors & cut the back straps in half. Then I cut down the front of the shoes & out the toes. I gave them to her & calmly said "That's what I think of your decision to sneak those shoes out to school". "You pull any stunt like that again & the result will be worse. More clothes will go." Then I just walked out of the room.

    I periodically checked her backpack after that for "unauthorized" clothes, although I never told her I did. Apparently it worked, because she always wore appropriate clothes after that.
    Although, as she got older, jeans, T-shirts, sweatshirts, & sneakers had become her near always attire. So that kind of solved the problem in itself.
    Mum is that you!! this is something my mother or father would of done.. I had to wear a school uniform, but my skirts were always too long ( because I would grow into it) and later it would fit my sister -Well, I would go to school, and before I got on the bus, I would hitch it up. Nowhere near what I see today btw, but I would roll it over my belt. I was standing in a queue waiting for the bus- my father drove by, and yelled my name, everyone looked at me, I do mean everyone .He proceeded to escort me to the other side of the bus shelter, where he demanded I put the skirt down to where it was when I left the house . I was so embarrassed, I wanted the ground to open and swallow me up. I never touched that skirt again.
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    Re: FORT Koffee Klatch

    Quote Originally Posted by Miss Scarlet View Post
    Well, one day shortly after, I was straightening things up & moved her school backpack, which was partially opened. The shoes fell out. She had been sneaking them to school & changing into them there.
    Oh my gosh, I would be LIVID! You totally made the right call!!

    My daughter is almost 9. For the last two summers we have been in The Battle of the Shortie Shorts. Bottom line: she's not allowed to wear them! She has some shortER shorts that she is allowed to wear for soccer or dance classes, but she is constantly trying to push the line ("can I wear these to school?", "can i get short denim shorts?", etc)!! I am always amazed at the number of her friends that are allowed to wear super-short-shorts. On the other hand, she is easily a head-and-a-half taller than most of her friends and I can already tell that when she is older she will have curves that I have never in my life had. We are NOT going to open the door even a crack to provocative clothing!!
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    Good for you!! we lived near a school awhile ago, and I thought half the girls looked like they were going to a club, not school. The make up was something else.
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    As strict as my parents were, the only thing they weren't super strict about was my clothes. They pretty much allowed me to wear what I wanted, but I used good judgment and when I was a teen, the cool look were the 70's clothes, not all that revealing. I did wear shorts, (not too short) in the summer and bikinis. Later on I attended a private Christian school where we wore uniforms. Ughh....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Debb70 View Post
    As strict as my parents were, the only thing they weren't super strict about was my clothes. They pretty much allowed me to wear what I wanted, but I used good judgment and when I was a teen, the cool look were the 70's clothes, not all that revealing. I did wear shorts, (not too short) in the summer and bikinis. Later on I attended a private Christian school where we wore uniforms. Ughh....
    The only good thing about uniforms, was when we got home we could change into whatever clothes we wanted. Now it seems they wear their best clothes to school - I see kids asking for all kinds of name brand clothes that mum cannot afford.
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    When my kids were in High School (it wasn't a problem before that ), they of course wanted the expensive name brand stuff. I told them how much they got for Back-to-School clothes & shoes. I told them that if they wanted the outrageously priced jeans, sweatshirts, shoes, etc., they could have them. But when the money was gone it was gone. No more clothes, so the expensive ones had better last a loooooong time & they'd better expect to rewear the same ones a lot. If they literally fell apart, they'd get replacements from Good Will.

    They compromised, which I liked. They would choose one or two items from the "expensive brand" clothes. Usually fairly reasonably priced. Then find good sales on clothes they liked the looks of.

    I think I taught them a bit about handling their money this way, & about shopping the sales. At least I hope I did.
    Also, I was a little freer about replacement clothes.
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    I did the same thing Miss Scarlet. I didn't give in easily. I see some mums now, they seem almost afraid to say no to their children.
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    My sons were never interested in fashion. The high school wardrobe they favored were tee shirts of favorite rock bands and skinny Levi jeans. For a while, though, the oldest one wore those baggy jeans, which skinny as he was, made him look ridiculous. They were not worn, however, with his underwear hanging out.

    Back in the 80's I taught in a parochial girls' high school. Some of the girls liked to push the limits by rolling up their skirts but the nuns were eagle eyed and always made them pull them down. After the school day they would change into their street clothes and my word, they didn't look quite as ic then.

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    My great nephew I am helping raise is so easy to please. He is 11 and just get him a pair of atheletic shorts and a t-shirt and he is happy but the 9 year old girl wants skinny jeans and butt high shorts which she doesn't get the shorts. She gets the jeans as she is super skinny but she doesn't get revealing clothes or sexy clothes. Sad to say but the girls her age want to look sexy and of course she sees that and thinks it is okay....not.
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