You guys are the best! April came over this morning and we talked, I took bits from each of your comments and just told her that with my hip surgery coming up soon, I want to try to be more independent, and I also want her to be able to spend more time with her kids. I told her how much I love and appreciate her and that I'm here if she ever needs me, but I won't be needing her on a regular basis anymore.
She suggested we change it to a "call if I need her basis".
I feel so relieved and a little guilty too. She's so nice to have taken the time to help me. But everything I said was the truth so I feel good about that.
I really appreciate all of your advice. I don't think I'd have had the courage to talk to her without all of you.