I remember my first movie being Bambi, and like Ellen it was at a drive-in. My sister and I were playing on a swingset they had their until the movie started. I was horrified when Bambi's mom was shot in the opening! We don't see it but it's implied well enough because the shot rings out and then Bambi is alone. It doesn't seem that bad to adults but it's pretty traumatic to kids.
I miss going to drive-ins. The last time I went to one was when my family visited Michigan, and it ended up being a disaster. We saw Gladiator and the mosquitos were so bad, I wasn't able to pay attention to the movie. It was too hot to keep the car windows up and we hadn't brought any mosquito repellant or Citronella like the locals in the cars around us, who obviously knew better.
Never had kids, never wanted kids, never regretted it. I'm 39 and my husband and I (together since 18, married at 23) started with the 'if it happens, it happens, but I really hope it doesn't happen so here's some things I can do about it' train for a while in the early marriage years. That quickly turned into "oh heck no" and at 26 we made the choice and he got snipped. We always figured if for some strange reason we changed our minds, we could adopt but that was strictly a choice to make, not a whoops mistake. We didn't tell anyone we had done that because it was OUR decision. Yes, we were young to make it but we both strongly felt if you didn't have the burning desire to be a parent, you maybe shouldn't be one. Looking back, it was one of the best decisions we ever made. I have not once regretted it. We have nieces and nephews on both sides and plenty of friends with kids. We LOVE kids, which seems to surprise people, we just don't want any of our own. Kids love us and their parents usually comment on what great parents we would have been and we know we would have - we just didn't want to.
Other people seem to have the hardest time with our decision. Um, who cares? I really hate the head tilt/sigh/pitying look some people give me when I say we don't have children. I have started replying to it with 'I know, that's how I felt about you when you said you had them." I hate that there is such a "rule" that you should live life in this order and do these things because you're supposed to and everyone else does. How about you live the life you want with kids and I live the one I want without them. Like I said, I LOVE kids. I don't want to be a parent, period. I am not selfish, I did not choose my career over my family (We have a great family, by the way. The kids are just hairier and have more legs than yours) I don't hate kids. I don't judge people who have kids, why is it fair to judge me for not.
Two things that crack me up about the whole thing and then I'll get off the soapbox. Our friends have three (great!) kids and were fighting one night. He made some crack about the kids, she replied "where would you be without those kids??" (disclaimer: he's a great dad, they are a great family) his reply: "I dunno, Key West with Mike and Jamie sounds good!!!"
And second is this gem that always cracks me up. No, it is NOT a shot against people who have kids, it is merely acknowledging how hard they can be sometimes! I can't figure out how to rename the link, but it is Ann Landers' poem about the "poor" childless couple.
the childfree-by-choice pages [potpourri]
Wag more, bark less
I just got back from the computer shop - what a great couple of guys! I was glad to meet them. They got the Google redirect and several other viruses off my computer and installed some protective ware on top of my Norton that had been turned off by the virus. They had some good advice for me, but I'm not likely to stop tooling around on the computer. Basically you can pick these things up anywhere. Thanks to everyone here who offered advice.
My first remembered movie was Sleeping Beauty. Maleficent terrified me. I remember my dad having to take me out of the theater.
Count your blessings!
The first movie I remember seeing in the theatre was Lady and the Tramp. The next was the NUTTY Professor. I remember that color from when he changed.
I saw Cinderella in an old Fox Theater. I was three years old and my oldest brother was in charge of me, another brother and sister. He was 7 years old at the time. I think in this day and age my father would be arrested for dropping us off at a big theater by ourselves. He was pretty busy though because my mom was having another baby at the time and he figured we would be safe there while he drove to the hospital to see her. Those were different times. I loved the movie and still remember to this day how excited I was to be in that theater.
To all of you that have human kids I take my hat off to you, it is just not me. My four legged furry ones are mine.
Timmy 1982-1991, Mona 1989-2007. Joey 1996-2011, Trouble 1999 - 13 1/2 yrs old adopted ME 7 months ago with her TWO teeth.
Timmy coffee table 4 months.jpgMona the LOOK.jpgJoey.jpgTrouble 11.17.12.jpg
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The first movies that I can recall seeing in the theatre are The Sound of Music, Born Free and Doctor Dolittle.
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