People's ignorance can be hurtful. I say be blunt and let them deal with it. If they are are rude enough to inquire why someone does not have kids, they deserve whatever answer they get. lol
I know a lot of people who shouldn't have procreated. My niece was one of them. My sister and I are raising her grandchildren. I wouldn't have it any other way but you don't know what you miss if you don't have it. I would have never allowed these children to be put in foster care as long as I was able to care for them.
The percentage of people raising children that are grandkids/nieces/nephews or other where I live is astronomical and has become an epidemic. My sister works for a cable company and the amount of people she talks to that are raising their grandkids is unbelievable.
Here's what I say to them.....Don't have kids if you aren't going to raise them......get fixed.
I thought humor could be another response method if forthright is difficult. In my case I've told people I can barely take care of myself, so more kids isn't a good idea. Or I tell them I forget to feed myself sometimes even if it doesn't look it. My poor kid has occasionally told me at 10 pm that we haven't had supper yet! I use self-deprecating humor all the time to explain my flighty behavior. I always say I'm ditzy today, hoping they don't notice 'today' is really everyday :lol
I can never understand why someone would ask another person such a personal question in the first place. My daughter would love to have a baby and she would be an outstanding mother, but she has fertility issues. This is something she is dealing with and she is weighing her options, but she shouldn't have to explain any of this to anyone that she doesn't choose to just because they think they "need" to know. It's no different for someone who has made the choice to not be a parent. Having said that, I don't know what the proper response to such a question is. I guess for me, I'd just be blunt and tell the person that my reproductive choices are none of their business. Maybe if they get enough rude responses to their rude question they will eventually take the hint?
As I've gone through life I've seen many happy families, unhappy ones, both childless and with one through many children. I had a pretty carefree childhood, knew we were rather poor but it didn't affect me as a kid as far as I know. But duringthe course of growing up I realized two things - 1) I liked being alone and had no desire to be coupled and 2) As a kid I didn't even like kids. I had many friends with families who had kids that I spoiled because they were good people and appreciative. (unlike my sisters two who in 1980 something - upon opening their Christmas cards and seeing the $20.00 both said - Is that all?)
I have had felines and canines growing up and when on my own I had/have my kids Timmy the Tabby, Mona THE LOOK Tabby, Joey my White & Black fella and now Ms. Trouble the two tooth 13 1/2 yr old sweetheart I adopted 7 months ago. I havea great career, good family, great people I work with who I consider my friends and a nice apartment. I don't miss being "coupling" since I have no desire, I certainly do not miss having human kids. The that work in my Department are all in their mid 20's - low 30's and either have kids that range from a few months to 10 years - I enjoy their sucesses and times.
When asked (which doesn't happen much anymore) why I am not married/seeing anyone or don't I miss not having that/kids - I say Not at all - I have a great life and love being alone with Trouble. If they continue to pry I repeat.
I almost passed out when I logged onto FoRT today and it was back!! Or was it just me that was off track?? We go through this about once/year, don't we? All things considered, I guess that's not too bad! :up
I had trouble too. Some threads would show up and others just gave me an error message.
I, too, thought it was my computer, & I was on the good computer.
Glad it wasn't.